Three Ways To Make Her “Want" More

Driving home for a long day of work I decided to take the long route home. Driving through the side streets, I started to wonder about my life and where was I headed. The house with a white picket fence was always the plan I thought as I drove through the neighborhood. 

Recently I developed a relationship with a young women, we will call her “Mel.” I was head over heels for this women, she even enjoyed working out together. I felt like I was on cloud nine. We recently started to say the “L” word if you could believe it. Everything was perfect, almost too perfect.

"I feel a vibration from my left hip pocket."

 It was Mel asking if we could talk. I wasn’t worried. We don’t fight or get angry at each other, what is the worst that can happen? When I get home I couldn’t wait to get on the phone to talk to her (felt like a school kid again). The phone kept ringing and ringing, “maybe she was going to call me?” I thought out loud. Three days passed without talking to her. In the middle of the day I get a text from her; It reads “I am sorry but I just can’t do this, you seem so perfect, we don’t fight or argue, I feel like we are way too comfortable with each other.” My heart drops. What does she mean that we are way too comfortable? I text back with no reply. No reply ever again.

This is a story I hear over and over again. Man gets women, women gets scared because of complacency, Women leaves man. It’s not our fault, we didn't do anything wrong right? Time and time again, I hear the same old sob story about how the girl felt like it was moving too fast or not moving too fast. I think that is just bull. Recently I was on the other side of the spectrum. I started to date this girl. She was nice and beautiful, giving me lots of attention but that's all it was. I felt a connection but didn’t feel like I was getting what all good relationships needed.

So I developed a three step method to utilize if you feel things are becoming too comfortable.

        Become “un” needy

-     Most men become very comfortable and therefore needy. This is a big no no. You need to be seen as her equal not a groveling dog. Create space between her and you. You don’t need to see her every day, go do things for yourself.

         Create goals

      This is a piggy back off of the first step. If you are able to see her every day that means you are not a busy person. You my friend have become complacent. Start to tackle some of those goals that you set aside. Get a degree, lose weight, start a side business, whatever it is do it. It not only shows that you care for your life but helps her understand where you stand in hers. It increases your value in the relationship.

    

       Keep her guessing

      Now that you are out of the house and have become a busy man, she may want some time with you. This is where you can plan something special. You may want to plan a picnic at sunset or a romantic dinner (cooked by you) at home where you can cuddle and watch a romantic comedy. Try to keep the relationship different and fun.

With these three steps, you will keep her guessing and increase value for the relationship. Try to use these steps and leave a comment below to tell me what you did. Also visit my sister blog www.artofbeau.com

Getting HOT SEXY women with Personal Value!!

As I walked into the bar with my buds, I looked around to see who is staring back at me. I looked around feeling so confident because I just got a new haircut, whitened my teeth and now down to 10% body fat. I start to walk through the bar and already a girl start to pull on my shirt asking me what my name was. Through the whole night I continue to get the response from many women throughout the night as I start to develop a self esteem that is unparalleled that I had before. Thinking about it, reading documents on how any man can seduce a woman I look at the article and disagree. Even though the techniques would work on some women, I think the women that put hours upon hours in the gym and pay a butt load of money to do their hair want a man that put the same importance in themselves as their partners.

I like the way I feel when I workout and I like the attention that the opposite sex gives me when I am out and about. I will refer back to social value and the confident level that you can create when of course you take care of yourself physically. It also will create a mental atmosphere where you can maneuver and start to be apart of the social scene. Like I said time and time again you don’t have to be in great shape but to tell you the truth if you want a hot, sexy women that you know goes to the gym you may need to hit the weights and lose weight. Just like a car you need to take care of it so it looks nice and new right? Same concept, a women will not want an overweight man that has lost teeth and hair because they don’t take care of themselves, you must understand that physicality is apart of the relationship too. So that said she is going want the value of a man to be at her level or above.

Now there is many questions you have on how to change yourself, and it took me about 2 years to realize this. I have been in the shadows of my friends for awhile and I just thought it was the way life is but didn’t accept that. I started to do research and found that you must adopt a new lifestyle, a new pattern of thinking if you wanted to change your life. I was a passive aggressive and now I am assertive, I was overweight and out of shape and now I run ten miles every other day. It’s a thought process and how to develop the thought of changing your new life, don’t accept it, change now for a better healthier you!!

Make better choices!! for a better life

As I look out at the vast mountain range of the “Keyhole” with the 50 MPH wind hitting my face like a sand blaster, my stomach drops. Looking down, I see a rocky ridge 2000 feet down with a straight drop and to the left was the path up the massive mountain which I was almost there. I stepped back for a moment looked at the people I was with and saw that they were not going to do it. I started back down the boulder field and thought to myself I was almost there what am I scared of?  The drop?  The wind? Yeah I was scared but we are always scared of everything and this separates us from the ones who “can” and the “cants”. I start to tighten up my backpack and tie my shoes “Hey, I am going to do it!” my friends turn around and look at me like I was crazy. I told them it may take me some time but I will be back! I start to ascend back to the entrance of the backside of the mountain, the wind blowing in my face my stomach again starts to drop again as I climb over the giant boulders.