Getting HOT SEXY women with Personal Value!!

As I walked into the bar with my buds, I looked around to see who is staring back at me. I looked around feeling so confident because I just got a new haircut, whitened my teeth and now down to 10% body fat. I start to walk through the bar and already a girl start to pull on my shirt asking me what my name was. Through the whole night I continue to get the response from many women throughout the night as I start to develop a self esteem that is unparalleled that I had before. Thinking about it, reading documents on how any man can seduce a woman I look at the article and disagree. Even though the techniques would work on some women, I think the women that put hours upon hours in the gym and pay a butt load of money to do their hair want a man that put the same importance in themselves as their partners.

I like the way I feel when I workout and I like the attention that the opposite sex gives me when I am out and about. I will refer back to social value and the confident level that you can create when of course you take care of yourself physically. It also will create a mental atmosphere where you can maneuver and start to be apart of the social scene. Like I said time and time again you don’t have to be in great shape but to tell you the truth if you want a hot, sexy women that you know goes to the gym you may need to hit the weights and lose weight. Just like a car you need to take care of it so it looks nice and new right? Same concept, a women will not want an overweight man that has lost teeth and hair because they don’t take care of themselves, you must understand that physicality is apart of the relationship too. So that said she is going want the value of a man to be at her level or above.

Now there is many questions you have on how to change yourself, and it took me about 2 years to realize this. I have been in the shadows of my friends for awhile and I just thought it was the way life is but didn’t accept that. I started to do research and found that you must adopt a new lifestyle, a new pattern of thinking if you wanted to change your life. I was a passive aggressive and now I am assertive, I was overweight and out of shape and now I run ten miles every other day. It’s a thought process and how to develop the thought of changing your new life, don’t accept it, change now for a better healthier you!!

Love Yourself

As I stare waitingly into the cold black screen, I have anxiety on the unexplained. The call or even text that I have waited for sometime just will not come. Having the urge to make the attempt to call I back up for a minute and excuse myself. “I shouldn’t be feeling this way, I should be out and about but I am not”. Sitting in my bedroom just pondering and wanting it to give me some sound that I have been yourning for. With all of the people and women that I have met why is this one bothering me? Why cant I just let go and just move on somehow?

            Wondering for several days I walked down the street remembering of the homework assignment I had to complete in English, I started to stress about that as well. The assignment was to write about a travelling experience I had that taught me a lesson and to write as a narrative. I started out as talking about the whole thing of me in Lake Powell and doing all of the crazy things that we did. One thing that stuck in my mind was the “cliff Jump” this was one of my most memorable moments in my life that I could remember. As I start to write about it I realized that was the only time I was single and happy to not have to worry about what another person is doing.

            As I continue to ponder the reasoning and writing the story my dialogue comes to life as if the words was trying to say something to me. I stop and thought real hard on why I feel that I always have to have a female around me. “I don’t know my limits, I don’t even know how to do anything”. The thought processes through my head like a nail gun putting together the foundation of a wall. I need to start fulfilling my life with other things than the attention of the opposite sex. I cant operate without knowing of a women that cares or at least is thinking of me. So how do I start? What am I going to do to rid myself of the all to commonality of most men and why we fail with relationships.

           

            The all to common “jumping from one to the other” and why we associate this to being happy. I am going to work with this one as somewhat of a starter because I myself has fallen victim to a lot of the term usage of my own life and why I do this. I have always been in a relationship and enjoyed them but for one I time in my life I have not truly enjoyed myself in being single. So here is a few things I am going to point at when trying this new thing:

• Make a list “Bucket List”- Try new things or reinvent old things  but make a list in the stuff you have always wanted to try and do it alone. You don’t need friends for this one try to do this one and you should be trying to make new friends.
• Get fit- Now I am always saying this because I enjoy being healthy but try to enjoy wherever you are.
• Help your community- Try to sign up to help fix the local community or even feed the homeless. Be proactive in giving back to your community.
• Reconnect with family/friends- this is a big one that I had an issue with because with my relationships I was close guarded so I cared nothing with the other relationships in my life. Basically just leaving them to the waste side.
• Go on vacation with yourself- I am going to go to New York this summer and I believe I am going to go there by myself to let some steam off.

There is a lot of other things you can do but start to live life as if you are the one driving. Too many people fall victim to the innate nature of a relationship and they find themselves in an emotional rollercoaster. If you yourself do not know what you like how is the other person in your life going to know!!

Summer!! Customize it !!

Wanting more from life and wondering what you can do to achieve it? Wondering the same myself as I was out on another weekend with my buddies trying to understand why I do this every weekend. Contemplating this in the back of my mind I knew why and it was because my friends do it. Drinking until I get totally obliterated and not being able to remember the night is something I don’t think I want to continue doing. Trying to re-piece the night I sounded like I had a great time but why put my body through this, no more I say because it is not worth it. I cant stress the importance of how drinking can inhibit everything about your life as I have had to deal with it for a little bit but finally realized the importance of being a healthy individual. I now have the power to take back my life and make the proper decisions to have an amazing summer!!

We all dream about doing something more with our life and being able to do something different but when it comes to the decision we don’t do it. Self sabotage is what I have been preaching and that is what we all do but lets think about a healthier summer:

• Get Fit- Now this is hard but once you jump in its no holds barred. Having summer here gives me a sense of wanting to get out and do something active and also being in Colorado helps. Get out and do some running, hiking or mountain biking as well. Not only will this of course help your health but better with the opposite sex as well.
• Try something new- So what I have noticed is that people tend to be in habit. What you may want to try is to get fit but try a new way of doing it. I will start bouldering on Tuesday and extremely excited because it is something new and I am not wasting away at a patio drinking empty calories. Try to find something physically to do while it being also fun.
• New style- get rid of the 3 year old shorts and reward yourself with newer and of this decade style.
• Eat healthy and fresh- Summer always reminds me of fresh squeezed lemonade and grilling. Try to get a juicer and some fish, eating healthier also helps so many other things such as your mood. Fish is an amazing food because its protein to fat is outstanding and very lean for you but also the omega vitamins will help that burn you get turn into a tan senor!!
• Relax- Stop stressing, this leads to irrational decisions when it comes to your personal life as well. Feeling stressed can leave you tired and fatigued so when you had plans you wanted to do you may feel weary to do them.

I am thinking that maybe also trying to do some of these with the opposite sex. Try these things for this summer and even plan a trip other than party cities like places you really want to go!!

I am a Realist…

Thinking back at my life I never would have thought I would be here! In a place where I have so many decisions to make and it will not only affect me but everyone around me. I continue to drum the fingers on the table as I think of the words to come to mind and putting it down on paper. The words correlating with one another as if they were smeared on there like peanut butter, words looking more like pictures. I continue to get mental fatigue, running out of words and even breathe saying them over and over.

This is what my motivation has helped me accomplish!! and keep going

Product of your environment “subjective”

Sitting there with a six dollar Latte, thinking to myself while I was people watching “Why do people do what they do”? It makes no sense to me that your soul, your whole embodiment of what makes you who you are may be a little skewed. Looking around people has a habit they pick up when they are really little as toddlers and gradually it becomes a thought they start to grow from it. I was thinking about it, what could have caused the way I think? What triggered my thought process in which I try to utilize biological advances to use towards my struggles in being a man my son can look up to?

Setting Goals for Better Mental Health

The time it takes for us to realize that we have an issue is about less than a second. The time it takes is to correct this issue can take a lifetime, why is that? I was sitting in my room knowing I have an issue but continuing to do the same thing over and over as if I was listening to the same song over and over again. Waking up I tell my self that this will be the day when I change, this will be the day I start off right. Self sabotaging seems to be the modern realization of someone’s ego. I tend to stay on the same page without wanting to turn the page with fear of it. I tend to want to resort back to the same things I am accustomed to and can’t get to the part I want to be and without it I feel alone and depressed. With the same people I seem to go out with, they seem to be friendly but in the end I am betrayed by their desires of drinking and loose women. Goals I set every start of the week seems to be dwindled by the end when my urge to use the bottle to solve my social problems.