Three Ways To Make Her “Want" More

Driving home for a long day of work I decided to take the long route home. Driving through the side streets, I started to wonder about my life and where was I headed. The house with a white picket fence was always the plan I thought as I drove through the neighborhood. 

Recently I developed a relationship with a young women, we will call her “Mel.” I was head over heels for this women, she even enjoyed working out together. I felt like I was on cloud nine. We recently started to say the “L” word if you could believe it. Everything was perfect, almost too perfect.

"I feel a vibration from my left hip pocket."

 It was Mel asking if we could talk. I wasn’t worried. We don’t fight or get angry at each other, what is the worst that can happen? When I get home I couldn’t wait to get on the phone to talk to her (felt like a school kid again). The phone kept ringing and ringing, “maybe she was going to call me?” I thought out loud. Three days passed without talking to her. In the middle of the day I get a text from her; It reads “I am sorry but I just can’t do this, you seem so perfect, we don’t fight or argue, I feel like we are way too comfortable with each other.” My heart drops. What does she mean that we are way too comfortable? I text back with no reply. No reply ever again.

This is a story I hear over and over again. Man gets women, women gets scared because of complacency, Women leaves man. It’s not our fault, we didn't do anything wrong right? Time and time again, I hear the same old sob story about how the girl felt like it was moving too fast or not moving too fast. I think that is just bull. Recently I was on the other side of the spectrum. I started to date this girl. She was nice and beautiful, giving me lots of attention but that's all it was. I felt a connection but didn’t feel like I was getting what all good relationships needed.

So I developed a three step method to utilize if you feel things are becoming too comfortable.

        Become “un” needy

-     Most men become very comfortable and therefore needy. This is a big no no. You need to be seen as her equal not a groveling dog. Create space between her and you. You don’t need to see her every day, go do things for yourself.

         Create goals

      This is a piggy back off of the first step. If you are able to see her every day that means you are not a busy person. You my friend have become complacent. Start to tackle some of those goals that you set aside. Get a degree, lose weight, start a side business, whatever it is do it. It not only shows that you care for your life but helps her understand where you stand in hers. It increases your value in the relationship.

    

       Keep her guessing

      Now that you are out of the house and have become a busy man, she may want some time with you. This is where you can plan something special. You may want to plan a picnic at sunset or a romantic dinner (cooked by you) at home where you can cuddle and watch a romantic comedy. Try to keep the relationship different and fun.

With these three steps, you will keep her guessing and increase value for the relationship. Try to use these steps and leave a comment below to tell me what you did. Also visit my sister blog www.artofbeau.com

Seducing the Mind ( get any women you want) Part 1 of 3

Intriguing as you might think that the stare or being flirtatious may come to you as women being interested in you, also would probably like to know that you need to intrigue the mind. Many people that I have met that I would say are not that attractive but seem to be very interesting when you talk and converse with them. Staying engaged at the simple topics they bring up and how they keep your interests. Being socially accepted by talking and creating a social environment it also is an attraction method when it comes to the opposite sex. Being able to become social puts you on the ladder of more of a Alpha as you will and the over abundance of social essence you can control. When most people tell you that you can have a beautiful woman they really do mean it.

Now with the title and what I just said I probably have your attention and not just the attention of reading but the want of knowing knowledge. The thrust of guiding someone into greatness through impressive wording and knowing the secrets. Well I am here to tell you that there is certain ways of seducing the mind of a woman and creating an utter abundance of attraction through word. It is shown that mean are perceiver of the physical realm while women also are but they also see the emotional tie or even biological tie. Women are of course different then men and so we must understand the full attraction of women where they think differently then we do.

Capability of achieving social and economic status in a way also shows another side of seduction not told to you we are not going to talk about being rich, this is for the every day gentleman who just wants to find someone who they may be physically attracted to and just doesn’t know how to or what way in which to talk to her and get to know them better. Utilizing that amazing words that come out of your mouth is a start and you haven’t even begun to understand the power of confidence, persuasion, and motivation that one person can use to of course attract the opposite sex. We are now in the third paragraph and I still haven’t touched base on what you could do to get her to notice you.

The power of your social class has a big part to do with what women find sexy and you only know this when you see it. High school of course is a great example of the attraction law and thought process on one’s opportunity to get the girl or vice versa. The QB getting the captain of the cheerleader, band geeks having crazy sex with each other ( in my school they were that way!). In this example it shows the social status is always going to be what is expected but when you are out and about with friends lets say the bar, She does not know who you are!!!!!! Let me say that again, she does not know who you are!!!! Don’t be a dummy when that was just brought to your attention. This means that you have a fresh start to show that you are the social elite status to her encumbering eyes.

This is what you need to do and this can work not only for your love life but to build friendships or your career. You use the power to lead conversation, to take control of a group and get them interested in a story or a theory that you have and how you do that is to first feel confident in controlling the group. Then when you know what to say you say it loud enough without shouting and deep enough so everyone knows the tone of the story, draw them in. Make the conversation open ended and be social as if you are running the show. Shake hands and use lots of touch, flirtatious with the girls and buddy manly touch with the guys (high fives etc.). Now when I started using this method I instantly had a girl who was gorgeous walk up to the group and in the middle of the group tell me and of course I have repeated this story numerous times:

“ Hey I don’t normally do this but I was wondering if you could take down my phone number?”

 And this is where I developed a theory because I was the center of attention because of the joke I told. The theory has been tried and tried and will work in most cases based on the completion and energy of the group and the reason why I tell you this was not only for the attraction of social status but because of energy we give off. We as human beings give off energy and if you notice it is positive or negative but others can feel it. You know when someone is happy or sad just by being by them and so part 1 of seducing the mind is just that. You get a big crowd of happy people that you are entertaining others cant help to be attracted to it!

Of course you are wanting more and if you wait next week their will be seducing the body !

Motivation…

So how do you become successful?  The word is a very strong word when you look at it. SUCCESS! Think about for a couple of seconds and think about what it takes to be successful and what you deem success. Money, cars or is it career, personal feats, and relationships. It took me two and a half years to figure out what I wanted, what I needed to be happy. It wasn’t girls, money and assets; it was being happy at my goals and attaining what I wanted in my life. I read through my past posts and I think that I have grown from the first part of my impatient theories and lectures on becoming this ultimate male. The reason why is because I was still waking up every morning unhappy even though I had a great night or going to work where I don’t feel adequate enough or happy to be there. So it is time to create goals and happiness in my life. I choose to be happy, I choose to win. No one else can give me the go ahead; no one else can tell me it’s my time. The only one that can tell me is me and that is all I need to motivate myself. All I need is to have the positive outlook on my goals.  What I need is me and to get up when life hits me and keeps beating me down, I will get back up and I will prevail, I will get up every morning and be as productive as I can be and to show my son that you have to work hard to get what you want. Looking for instant gratification is what we all look for when it comes to a dream, but how do you define Success. My definition is standing after every one else has fled, to lead when all others have already quit, to fight when others are knocked out. I will continue to breath and conquer when others have loss sight of the finish line. To continue to fight even though I was already knocked out, to show I am not weak but strong. It’s my time; it’s my time to show everyone they were wrong that they told lies about what I could have done in this life. I will show that I can succeed, I can do this. I am not saying that I will not fail and not fall, but what I am saying is I will get back up and continue to push to shove to drag to crawl to bleed. I will continue to get up and get up until I die, until my last breath and drop of blood has exploded out of me!!

I am a Realist…

Thinking back at my life I never would have thought I would be here! In a place where I have so many decisions to make and it will not only affect me but everyone around me. I continue to drum the fingers on the table as I think of the words to come to mind and putting it down on paper. The words correlating with one another as if they were smeared on there like peanut butter, words looking more like pictures. I continue to get mental fatigue, running out of words and even breathe saying them over and over.

The art of openness “objective”

As I ordered a drink at my favorite “hole in the wall” I look at my friends all having a good time except for one. Josh is a good guy and he seems like he has good intent but he looks sad enough to be on a Hallmark card. A great guy indeed just got a raise at his accounting job and he has a great place where any bachelor would love to have. I was wondering why none of the women he was talking to would not give him the time of day. Pulling Josh over to my side of the room I tell him that I would like to be his “Wingman”. Overly excited he was happy that someone was going to help him out with the girls that were giving no responses.

Spring Fever!!

It is upon us the spring has hit and now all I see is dresses and skirts. Get excited over this because this is the time of love, pools, BBQ’s and patios. Well if you are not excited that means you are not truly ready and need a little bit of encouragement. Maybe you need to adjust your look, work out, or change your wardrobe. Let’s look at this in perspective if you have not been excited about the spring that means you truly have not enjoyed the true feeling of warmer weather as a single male dude on the hunt for the ultimate feeling. With low self esteem and decreasing male libido means only one thing: you need to change up your game and experience.

I love spring because of the women and the more things you can do. Skin and warm weather is just exciting to me but let’s look at a couple of things to do if your game is not cutting it:

• Weight- well now that the winter is done that means you can lose the extra five to ten pounds you put on in hibernation.
• Run for at least 30-45 minutes every other day
• Change up your diet to have high protein and low carbohydrates; also you do need to do some calorie counting. Try this link http://health.drgily.com/basal-metabolic-rate-calculator.php and remember that the more calories you burn and the less intake = weight loss
• Muscle resistance is always my favorite but always use your brain on this one. You need to have a plan on what you do and try not to overwork your muscles. EX:  5 minute warm up, 30 minute muscle group (chest, back, shoulders, or legs) 15 minutes secondary muscles (Triceps, Biceps, or core) then do 10-15 minutes if cardio. Take it from this guy http://fitnesslk.blogspot.com/
• Resist temptations-remember that food is a necessity not a privilege. What this means is that you don’t have to eat at McDonald’s so think healthy.
• Change up wardrobe- This is very essential if you are still wearing the same gear from winter. You will need to put away the sweaters and break out the shorts and plaid shoes. T-shirts that will accentuate the newly developed muscles, perhaps a v-neck.
• Get some color- I am not saying go to the tanning bed every day but you need to maybe go outside and get the skin a little refreshed with the UV rays that also give out Vitamin- D. Remember to much of something is bad for you and most things are good in moderation.
• Enjoy the outdoors- get outside and do something like hiking, rock climbing or something that will get your blood pumping.
• Enjoy a patio- there is nothing better than just sitting outside on your own, a buddies or a bar patio but enjoy it because it feels so good to enjoy some suds in warm weather.
• Be single- now this is only for the single dudes but enjoy the women in your life and if you don’t have some get some. Read my other blogs on how to meet women and just get out there because I love the skin and you should to.

So now that we have discussed what to do for the spring we need to boldly go where you have not done before. No holding back and be strong on your values, don’t party too hard and enjoy other things besides just the bar and booze. Enjoy life as it brings fullness and new things to your life.