Three Ways To Make Her “Want" More

Driving home for a long day of work I decided to take the long route home. Driving through the side streets, I started to wonder about my life and where was I headed. The house with a white picket fence was always the plan I thought as I drove through the neighborhood. 

Recently I developed a relationship with a young women, we will call her “Mel.” I was head over heels for this women, she even enjoyed working out together. I felt like I was on cloud nine. We recently started to say the “L” word if you could believe it. Everything was perfect, almost too perfect.

"I feel a vibration from my left hip pocket."

 It was Mel asking if we could talk. I wasn’t worried. We don’t fight or get angry at each other, what is the worst that can happen? When I get home I couldn’t wait to get on the phone to talk to her (felt like a school kid again). The phone kept ringing and ringing, “maybe she was going to call me?” I thought out loud. Three days passed without talking to her. In the middle of the day I get a text from her; It reads “I am sorry but I just can’t do this, you seem so perfect, we don’t fight or argue, I feel like we are way too comfortable with each other.” My heart drops. What does she mean that we are way too comfortable? I text back with no reply. No reply ever again.

This is a story I hear over and over again. Man gets women, women gets scared because of complacency, Women leaves man. It’s not our fault, we didn't do anything wrong right? Time and time again, I hear the same old sob story about how the girl felt like it was moving too fast or not moving too fast. I think that is just bull. Recently I was on the other side of the spectrum. I started to date this girl. She was nice and beautiful, giving me lots of attention but that's all it was. I felt a connection but didn’t feel like I was getting what all good relationships needed.

So I developed a three step method to utilize if you feel things are becoming too comfortable.

        Become “un” needy

-     Most men become very comfortable and therefore needy. This is a big no no. You need to be seen as her equal not a groveling dog. Create space between her and you. You don’t need to see her every day, go do things for yourself.

         Create goals

      This is a piggy back off of the first step. If you are able to see her every day that means you are not a busy person. You my friend have become complacent. Start to tackle some of those goals that you set aside. Get a degree, lose weight, start a side business, whatever it is do it. It not only shows that you care for your life but helps her understand where you stand in hers. It increases your value in the relationship.

    

       Keep her guessing

      Now that you are out of the house and have become a busy man, she may want some time with you. This is where you can plan something special. You may want to plan a picnic at sunset or a romantic dinner (cooked by you) at home where you can cuddle and watch a romantic comedy. Try to keep the relationship different and fun.

With these three steps, you will keep her guessing and increase value for the relationship. Try to use these steps and leave a comment below to tell me what you did. Also visit my sister blog www.artofbeau.com

Reinvent yourself

As the days become shorter you start to realize that you are letting time pass you by. A middle aged man that has been drinking his 20’s away you wake up and realize you are not where you want to be. I can tell you that everyone puts them in the position of where they want to be and nothing is by chance or luck. Do you think you would win the lottery if you have never played it ( putting yourself in the pool). The answer is no, luck has nothing to do with lottery just putting yourself in the pool of others who would like to win.

The same thing you can say about life, life is a pool of winners and losers, if you are not winning you are losing and nothing can put you where you want to be besides you. Motivation is key in the game of everything, but you have to have a strategy before you enter into the game of life. Goals are great when you tell someone or you tell yourself you will do whatever you want to do but what happens, your goals diminish after a couple of hours because you don’t prepare. Many people in life prepare for what they want to become from a basketball player who has to practice to hit the difficult shots to the stock broker who studies the charts every minute of every day to the doctor who has to go to school for 8 years plus.

If you believe that people are just found for their talent you are surely kidding yourself. Many of the actors like Kevin Spacey and other greats stood behind the amazing stars before they got a chance. You need to make a goal and a chance to be great, a chance to show the world what you are capable of. Set goals which will make your life better as a whole and it doesn’t have to be going to the bar every weekend.

·        Don’t like your job- change jobs or better yet get a degree or another if you have one.

·        Step out on your own- go to the movies by yourself etc. you don’t need your best bud to go with you everywhere.

·        Do something that you have always wanted to do- make goals and get rid of the things that get in the way everyday.

·        Restart your passion- if something doesn’t work, back up then go at it again.

These are something’s to create a more cognitive thought on how to change an aspect of your life. Hence “your life” so go out and do it and do it like you mean it!!