Three Ways To Make Her “Want" More

Driving home for a long day of work I decided to take the long route home. Driving through the side streets, I started to wonder about my life and where was I headed. The house with a white picket fence was always the plan I thought as I drove through the neighborhood. 

Recently I developed a relationship with a young women, we will call her “Mel.” I was head over heels for this women, she even enjoyed working out together. I felt like I was on cloud nine. We recently started to say the “L” word if you could believe it. Everything was perfect, almost too perfect.

"I feel a vibration from my left hip pocket."

 It was Mel asking if we could talk. I wasn’t worried. We don’t fight or get angry at each other, what is the worst that can happen? When I get home I couldn’t wait to get on the phone to talk to her (felt like a school kid again). The phone kept ringing and ringing, “maybe she was going to call me?” I thought out loud. Three days passed without talking to her. In the middle of the day I get a text from her; It reads “I am sorry but I just can’t do this, you seem so perfect, we don’t fight or argue, I feel like we are way too comfortable with each other.” My heart drops. What does she mean that we are way too comfortable? I text back with no reply. No reply ever again.

This is a story I hear over and over again. Man gets women, women gets scared because of complacency, Women leaves man. It’s not our fault, we didn't do anything wrong right? Time and time again, I hear the same old sob story about how the girl felt like it was moving too fast or not moving too fast. I think that is just bull. Recently I was on the other side of the spectrum. I started to date this girl. She was nice and beautiful, giving me lots of attention but that's all it was. I felt a connection but didn’t feel like I was getting what all good relationships needed.

So I developed a three step method to utilize if you feel things are becoming too comfortable.

        Become “un” needy

-     Most men become very comfortable and therefore needy. This is a big no no. You need to be seen as her equal not a groveling dog. Create space between her and you. You don’t need to see her every day, go do things for yourself.

         Create goals

      This is a piggy back off of the first step. If you are able to see her every day that means you are not a busy person. You my friend have become complacent. Start to tackle some of those goals that you set aside. Get a degree, lose weight, start a side business, whatever it is do it. It not only shows that you care for your life but helps her understand where you stand in hers. It increases your value in the relationship.

    

       Keep her guessing

      Now that you are out of the house and have become a busy man, she may want some time with you. This is where you can plan something special. You may want to plan a picnic at sunset or a romantic dinner (cooked by you) at home where you can cuddle and watch a romantic comedy. Try to keep the relationship different and fun.

With these three steps, you will keep her guessing and increase value for the relationship. Try to use these steps and leave a comment below to tell me what you did. Also visit my sister blog www.artofbeau.com

Reinvent yourself

As the days become shorter you start to realize that you are letting time pass you by. A middle aged man that has been drinking his 20’s away you wake up and realize you are not where you want to be. I can tell you that everyone puts them in the position of where they want to be and nothing is by chance or luck. Do you think you would win the lottery if you have never played it ( putting yourself in the pool). The answer is no, luck has nothing to do with lottery just putting yourself in the pool of others who would like to win.

The same thing you can say about life, life is a pool of winners and losers, if you are not winning you are losing and nothing can put you where you want to be besides you. Motivation is key in the game of everything, but you have to have a strategy before you enter into the game of life. Goals are great when you tell someone or you tell yourself you will do whatever you want to do but what happens, your goals diminish after a couple of hours because you don’t prepare. Many people in life prepare for what they want to become from a basketball player who has to practice to hit the difficult shots to the stock broker who studies the charts every minute of every day to the doctor who has to go to school for 8 years plus.

If you believe that people are just found for their talent you are surely kidding yourself. Many of the actors like Kevin Spacey and other greats stood behind the amazing stars before they got a chance. You need to make a goal and a chance to be great, a chance to show the world what you are capable of. Set goals which will make your life better as a whole and it doesn’t have to be going to the bar every weekend.

·        Don’t like your job- change jobs or better yet get a degree or another if you have one.

·        Step out on your own- go to the movies by yourself etc. you don’t need your best bud to go with you everywhere.

·        Do something that you have always wanted to do- make goals and get rid of the things that get in the way everyday.

·        Restart your passion- if something doesn’t work, back up then go at it again.

These are something’s to create a more cognitive thought on how to change an aspect of your life. Hence “your life” so go out and do it and do it like you mean it!!

Divine Right!! Guide to getting what you want

Needing to have physical things throughout our day we tend forget on what is really what we are all here for and that is better our lives through creating the “divine right”. What is Divine right you ask? It is something I would to call creating a god like structure through respecting your mind, body and spirit. I don’t believe we can ever be perfect but think about the leaders of our world work. They are motivated by creating something that is there own as like God. They do this so meticulous, creative but they concentrate on everything that is what they create. I believe God is not a man in the sky looking after us but a higher power that motivates our body to be better everyday. A higher power that gives you tools to become better than yourself. When they say to accept Jesus in your heart, I think they got it wrong. I think Jesus was trying to explain to accept his teachings and him so you can live the lifestyle for an overall better positive life. The bible is a guide in which if we adopt the lifestyle it is to help us become a better person overall.

Now I don’t mean if you are not religious this is not for you. This concept is nothing new but it is something I am trying to adopt in my everyday routine. To do things with passion and strive to be self disciplined in my endeavors and to do things meticulously so it is done right. To be successful is to succeed at your failures, don’t give up on the things you do if they are hard. Push through the pain and it will be so much better than giving up early. If you do fail do it with pride knowing you did try your best, you will be a winner.

Divine right is a god like structured life that you try to live by. To know that you are positive and do things to the best of your ability while concentrating, that is divine right!!

Motivation…

So how do you become successful?  The word is a very strong word when you look at it. SUCCESS! Think about for a couple of seconds and think about what it takes to be successful and what you deem success. Money, cars or is it career, personal feats, and relationships. It took me two and a half years to figure out what I wanted, what I needed to be happy. It wasn’t girls, money and assets; it was being happy at my goals and attaining what I wanted in my life. I read through my past posts and I think that I have grown from the first part of my impatient theories and lectures on becoming this ultimate male. The reason why is because I was still waking up every morning unhappy even though I had a great night or going to work where I don’t feel adequate enough or happy to be there. So it is time to create goals and happiness in my life. I choose to be happy, I choose to win. No one else can give me the go ahead; no one else can tell me it’s my time. The only one that can tell me is me and that is all I need to motivate myself. All I need is to have the positive outlook on my goals.  What I need is me and to get up when life hits me and keeps beating me down, I will get back up and I will prevail, I will get up every morning and be as productive as I can be and to show my son that you have to work hard to get what you want. Looking for instant gratification is what we all look for when it comes to a dream, but how do you define Success. My definition is standing after every one else has fled, to lead when all others have already quit, to fight when others are knocked out. I will continue to breath and conquer when others have loss sight of the finish line. To continue to fight even though I was already knocked out, to show I am not weak but strong. It’s my time; it’s my time to show everyone they were wrong that they told lies about what I could have done in this life. I will show that I can succeed, I can do this. I am not saying that I will not fail and not fall, but what I am saying is I will get back up and continue to push to shove to drag to crawl to bleed. I will continue to get up and get up until I die, until my last breath and drop of blood has exploded out of me!!