Three Ways To Make Her “Want" More

Driving home for a long day of work I decided to take the long route home. Driving through the side streets, I started to wonder about my life and where was I headed. The house with a white picket fence was always the plan I thought as I drove through the neighborhood. 

Recently I developed a relationship with a young women, we will call her “Mel.” I was head over heels for this women, she even enjoyed working out together. I felt like I was on cloud nine. We recently started to say the “L” word if you could believe it. Everything was perfect, almost too perfect.

"I feel a vibration from my left hip pocket."

 It was Mel asking if we could talk. I wasn’t worried. We don’t fight or get angry at each other, what is the worst that can happen? When I get home I couldn’t wait to get on the phone to talk to her (felt like a school kid again). The phone kept ringing and ringing, “maybe she was going to call me?” I thought out loud. Three days passed without talking to her. In the middle of the day I get a text from her; It reads “I am sorry but I just can’t do this, you seem so perfect, we don’t fight or argue, I feel like we are way too comfortable with each other.” My heart drops. What does she mean that we are way too comfortable? I text back with no reply. No reply ever again.

This is a story I hear over and over again. Man gets women, women gets scared because of complacency, Women leaves man. It’s not our fault, we didn't do anything wrong right? Time and time again, I hear the same old sob story about how the girl felt like it was moving too fast or not moving too fast. I think that is just bull. Recently I was on the other side of the spectrum. I started to date this girl. She was nice and beautiful, giving me lots of attention but that's all it was. I felt a connection but didn’t feel like I was getting what all good relationships needed.

So I developed a three step method to utilize if you feel things are becoming too comfortable.

        Become “un” needy

-     Most men become very comfortable and therefore needy. This is a big no no. You need to be seen as her equal not a groveling dog. Create space between her and you. You don’t need to see her every day, go do things for yourself.

         Create goals

      This is a piggy back off of the first step. If you are able to see her every day that means you are not a busy person. You my friend have become complacent. Start to tackle some of those goals that you set aside. Get a degree, lose weight, start a side business, whatever it is do it. It not only shows that you care for your life but helps her understand where you stand in hers. It increases your value in the relationship.

    

       Keep her guessing

      Now that you are out of the house and have become a busy man, she may want some time with you. This is where you can plan something special. You may want to plan a picnic at sunset or a romantic dinner (cooked by you) at home where you can cuddle and watch a romantic comedy. Try to keep the relationship different and fun.

With these three steps, you will keep her guessing and increase value for the relationship. Try to use these steps and leave a comment below to tell me what you did. Also visit my sister blog www.artofbeau.com

Seducing the Mind ( get any women you want) Part 1 of 3

Intriguing as you might think that the stare or being flirtatious may come to you as women being interested in you, also would probably like to know that you need to intrigue the mind. Many people that I have met that I would say are not that attractive but seem to be very interesting when you talk and converse with them. Staying engaged at the simple topics they bring up and how they keep your interests. Being socially accepted by talking and creating a social environment it also is an attraction method when it comes to the opposite sex. Being able to become social puts you on the ladder of more of a Alpha as you will and the over abundance of social essence you can control. When most people tell you that you can have a beautiful woman they really do mean it.

Now with the title and what I just said I probably have your attention and not just the attention of reading but the want of knowing knowledge. The thrust of guiding someone into greatness through impressive wording and knowing the secrets. Well I am here to tell you that there is certain ways of seducing the mind of a woman and creating an utter abundance of attraction through word. It is shown that mean are perceiver of the physical realm while women also are but they also see the emotional tie or even biological tie. Women are of course different then men and so we must understand the full attraction of women where they think differently then we do.

Capability of achieving social and economic status in a way also shows another side of seduction not told to you we are not going to talk about being rich, this is for the every day gentleman who just wants to find someone who they may be physically attracted to and just doesn’t know how to or what way in which to talk to her and get to know them better. Utilizing that amazing words that come out of your mouth is a start and you haven’t even begun to understand the power of confidence, persuasion, and motivation that one person can use to of course attract the opposite sex. We are now in the third paragraph and I still haven’t touched base on what you could do to get her to notice you.

The power of your social class has a big part to do with what women find sexy and you only know this when you see it. High school of course is a great example of the attraction law and thought process on one’s opportunity to get the girl or vice versa. The QB getting the captain of the cheerleader, band geeks having crazy sex with each other ( in my school they were that way!). In this example it shows the social status is always going to be what is expected but when you are out and about with friends lets say the bar, She does not know who you are!!!!!! Let me say that again, she does not know who you are!!!! Don’t be a dummy when that was just brought to your attention. This means that you have a fresh start to show that you are the social elite status to her encumbering eyes.

This is what you need to do and this can work not only for your love life but to build friendships or your career. You use the power to lead conversation, to take control of a group and get them interested in a story or a theory that you have and how you do that is to first feel confident in controlling the group. Then when you know what to say you say it loud enough without shouting and deep enough so everyone knows the tone of the story, draw them in. Make the conversation open ended and be social as if you are running the show. Shake hands and use lots of touch, flirtatious with the girls and buddy manly touch with the guys (high fives etc.). Now when I started using this method I instantly had a girl who was gorgeous walk up to the group and in the middle of the group tell me and of course I have repeated this story numerous times:

“ Hey I don’t normally do this but I was wondering if you could take down my phone number?”

 And this is where I developed a theory because I was the center of attention because of the joke I told. The theory has been tried and tried and will work in most cases based on the completion and energy of the group and the reason why I tell you this was not only for the attraction of social status but because of energy we give off. We as human beings give off energy and if you notice it is positive or negative but others can feel it. You know when someone is happy or sad just by being by them and so part 1 of seducing the mind is just that. You get a big crowd of happy people that you are entertaining others cant help to be attracted to it!

Of course you are wanting more and if you wait next week their will be seducing the body !

Do what you love!

So now that I have recently let my stress go and Just started to do the things Ive always wanted to try. Climbing mountains, getting ripped and training for a marathon I noticed that I started to develop a personality that was my own. As I continue to write down the goals that I want to accomplish I understand why we have men who are considered these alpha males. They own their own lives and I see this in there eyes and when I started to go out for the first time I saw the response that others had when in company with these men.

I had to know how and why these people are so dang entertaining/ attractive/mysterious. As I start to do some research there is a lot of the same answers between different people and styles. I can guarantee right now I fill the same way and it fills amazing. I am not rich and  I am not tall But I am fit and I own my own life. That was one thing I was missing, whenever I would talk to someone I would hesitate when I told them I am going through a divorce and have a kid because I thought they would think differently of me.

Own your life because it is who you are!! The difference between you and that alpha male is that they own their lives. They tell you the good and bad of their lives but know that they have learned from their experiences. So to get out and do things and to create your own personality you need to try to do things you’ve always wanted to do!

Positive Awareness!!

As I stand in the outskirts of the bar looking around I notice the cliques and people that are enjoying each other. As I look around I see beautiful women all over the place and the glances that they are giving me. I start to have a giant smile having loads of confidence I tend to relax a tad in my plaid shorts as I feel at ease with all of the surroundings. Even if the girls were not staring at me directly or just glancing for their attention I still felt as if the energy that I felt created a positive awareness!! This was giving me a natural high as I have not felt this in awhile; can we use this for our own advantage to have the confidence? That night I felt as if I was ten feet in the air even though I was only a tiny 5’ 7”.

So this is something I use in generality to create a positive outlook on myself. I believe that women in general use glances to create a self persona on what they think people think of them. I also use this towards my advantage because it creates awareness that I am good enough for the opposite sex. I don’t think, I know that I could be in basic knowledge that the women here I can have but just don’t have the balls to talk to them. I warm up by allowing the energy of sensuality envolope me as if I was reaping natural energy from a known source. It’s all in the head; you create a fear of the outcomes of what you do and the scenarios that can develop from it. One thing I know is the answer is no if you don't ask, taking chances is all you have.

Creating a positive awareness about yourself can almost guarantee a better night for you and possibly your friends. You see even though we don’t know this we give off energy non-verbally but by looks and glances, try to realize it next time someone gives you a look and remember how you feel. The thought patterns that you create is from another source which you can presume has to be energy. What I try to teach is to envelope a thought pattern to use in the process’s in which you can utilize as a tool instead of resorting to the alternate which is alcohol where you cannot have the ability to communicate with the opposite sex.

I am a Realist…

Thinking back at my life I never would have thought I would be here! In a place where I have so many decisions to make and it will not only affect me but everyone around me. I continue to drum the fingers on the table as I think of the words to come to mind and putting it down on paper. The words correlating with one another as if they were smeared on there like peanut butter, words looking more like pictures. I continue to get mental fatigue, running out of words and even breathe saying them over and over.

The art of openness “objective”

As I ordered a drink at my favorite “hole in the wall” I look at my friends all having a good time except for one. Josh is a good guy and he seems like he has good intent but he looks sad enough to be on a Hallmark card. A great guy indeed just got a raise at his accounting job and he has a great place where any bachelor would love to have. I was wondering why none of the women he was talking to would not give him the time of day. Pulling Josh over to my side of the room I tell him that I would like to be his “Wingman”. Overly excited he was happy that someone was going to help him out with the girls that were giving no responses.

Social Objectiveness

Walking into the bar I was wondering around when I saw a gentleman with a group of people and was wondering why he was so important. He was not a movie star nor was he anyone I would think exceptionally interesting just looking at him. I had to know more about this so of course if I don’t know how it works I try to find out. So when he had to stop to go to the bar to get another drink I had to make a move to ask why he had almost a quarter of the bar in the palm of his hands.

I approached the middle aged man as If he was a teacher and I was an eager student to learn. “ Hey can I ask you a question” I said in a shaky voice. Smiling at me a with a weird grin he stated “sure”.  “I noticed that all of those people over there were giving all of their attention to you, do you know all of those people?” He grinned a pretty big grin and smiled stating “I am just interesting to talk to, I make myself open for opinions and I try to get to know everyone I can by remembering the name and something about them”. Okay as I walked away thinking maybe I can use this to my advantage.

Very simple when you think about it right? Basic thought process and simple playground theory on how to make friends but how do we use this to get the women to melt out of your hands? This was something I had to look into with knowing that attention is something that women like to have and give it to someone who has greater social value than her. See as much as I knew than was that you yourself is a very interesting person, everyone is very interesting and all you have to do is get past the first initial ice breaker. Lets look at this in depth just a little bit further and concentrate on the social value part.

Social Value is what Pick up artists use to attract women utilizing the value of their social skills to dominate the conversation having the object of their desire be submissive which will entitle the Pick up artists basically dominate her emotions as well. This is great and all but what if you can get multiple women attracted to you without even talking to them directly? How can we as men use each other to get all the women at the bar to be infused on trying to get our attention? I had an Idea but just had to test it out.

So after doing the research I decided to take it to the streets and try it at the local bar.  Sitting down at the bar where you had a clear view of everyone in the room I started in on the bartender. And I will review my notes with you to show you its all mathematical engineered to work as long as you do not get emotional.  Remember these points also when you do start to talk to the women you want as well.

• So placement is key in this game of cat and mouse, and we already went how you need to show Alpha male characterstics. Remember this process will evaluate your social value and aspects on making new friends and creating an attraction from women.

• So lets hit the basics on making people feel important.

1. know their name- simple but not so simple, how many times did you forget someone’s name. When they say their name, take some time to remember it and repeat it back to them, it actually shows a better social value.
2. Know something personal about them- this is a great thing to remember when wanting to make a bigger impression on the people you want to make your friends. It shows openness and wanting to be personal at the same time.
3. use body language- Don’t show a passive person this shows that you are not confident and it will not be good in the end and even lowering or even dismissing your social value.
4. Smile and ask open ended questions and really be involved in conversations, don’t act like it!!

• The bartender is the first piece of the puzzle. They are your friend but making them a better friend will take time and a little more dough if you want a good outcome. Tip very well and get to know their name and they will help you with what you came there for IE women.
• Make yourself the center of attention- now you know all of the players you need to know the game, be the center of attention of a group and make everyone involved, use dominant body language but also be open to everyone else. Be in the middle so everyone can talk to you and you can point them out when addressing them. If you have never been a mediator what you need to do is have a comment on everything someone says, use a real comment and always make it positive. Now you have successfully raised social value and your confidence.
• Use this to your advantage- look at the women around you after about 10 – 15 minutes, they should be fixated on you and your every move, don’t screw it up. Use this to your advantage, invite them into the conversation and if you don’t know if they are attracted look at the body language:

1. playfulness- playing with the hair or any part of clothing,
2. the look- yes of course if she stares then don’t be a wimp
3. knees and feet- look at them if any pointing in your direction and she glances to see then like I said don’t be a wimp
4. overly moving, exemplifying action- this is very key, moving slower, slurping down the drink slowly, flinging hair back, being fidgety, these are things to remember.

• Remembering your value- don’t put her on a pedestal when opening up with her, remember you just had a bunch of people eating out of your hands and to put her above you decreases your value fast. Use somewhat of a negative comment and intend to be funny like “ you have broad shoulders for a women” or “you have only one dimple when you smile, its odd but cute”

When doing this task it will increase your confidence not only with women but people in general. Having this type of quality you can use not only in just attracting women but your worth at your job or with your current friends. Remembering that this is and can be used very versatile will help you control your intentions and emotions as well.

Being Attractive can only go so far when seducing women!

She was sitting there as beautiful as possible and glances up to see what attention she was getting. She looks right at you and gives smile as if she was waiting for you the whole time but you freeze and your palms get sweaty. The nervousness gets to you as if you were paralyzed from the brain down, not knowing you walk away and leave her wondering why you could not talk to her.

Nice guys can finish first!

So lately I have been reading a lot of blogs that have been talking about how nice guys finish last! This is not true because I believe I am a nice guy but I am usually the guy who the women are attracted to! Now I am not saying that the bad boy image is something you have to have to get the women but let’s take a look at why it works. We all have a persona on the mind and how we think but we need to think differently to get those women we want!

Getting Attention from Women

So I have written so much about attracting women and the seduction of them but what about attention from them. There is a primal instinct of everyone to get attention from another person. Either through friends or from of course the opposite sex but why do we need this in our life? How are we going to get more of this stuff? How are you going to get attention from the one you like?