Three Ways To Make Her “Want" More

Driving home for a long day of work I decided to take the long route home. Driving through the side streets, I started to wonder about my life and where was I headed. The house with a white picket fence was always the plan I thought as I drove through the neighborhood. 

Recently I developed a relationship with a young women, we will call her “Mel.” I was head over heels for this women, she even enjoyed working out together. I felt like I was on cloud nine. We recently started to say the “L” word if you could believe it. Everything was perfect, almost too perfect.

"I feel a vibration from my left hip pocket."

 It was Mel asking if we could talk. I wasn’t worried. We don’t fight or get angry at each other, what is the worst that can happen? When I get home I couldn’t wait to get on the phone to talk to her (felt like a school kid again). The phone kept ringing and ringing, “maybe she was going to call me?” I thought out loud. Three days passed without talking to her. In the middle of the day I get a text from her; It reads “I am sorry but I just can’t do this, you seem so perfect, we don’t fight or argue, I feel like we are way too comfortable with each other.” My heart drops. What does she mean that we are way too comfortable? I text back with no reply. No reply ever again.

This is a story I hear over and over again. Man gets women, women gets scared because of complacency, Women leaves man. It’s not our fault, we didn't do anything wrong right? Time and time again, I hear the same old sob story about how the girl felt like it was moving too fast or not moving too fast. I think that is just bull. Recently I was on the other side of the spectrum. I started to date this girl. She was nice and beautiful, giving me lots of attention but that's all it was. I felt a connection but didn’t feel like I was getting what all good relationships needed.

So I developed a three step method to utilize if you feel things are becoming too comfortable.

        Become “un” needy

-     Most men become very comfortable and therefore needy. This is a big no no. You need to be seen as her equal not a groveling dog. Create space between her and you. You don’t need to see her every day, go do things for yourself.

         Create goals

      This is a piggy back off of the first step. If you are able to see her every day that means you are not a busy person. You my friend have become complacent. Start to tackle some of those goals that you set aside. Get a degree, lose weight, start a side business, whatever it is do it. It not only shows that you care for your life but helps her understand where you stand in hers. It increases your value in the relationship.

    

       Keep her guessing

      Now that you are out of the house and have become a busy man, she may want some time with you. This is where you can plan something special. You may want to plan a picnic at sunset or a romantic dinner (cooked by you) at home where you can cuddle and watch a romantic comedy. Try to keep the relationship different and fun.

With these three steps, you will keep her guessing and increase value for the relationship. Try to use these steps and leave a comment below to tell me what you did. Also visit my sister blog www.artofbeau.com

Lose Weight Instantly!! Motivational (part 1 of 3)

Yes lose it instantly!! It can happen, to lose weight instantly and I can show you how. What you need to be is to just relax and just picture a serene look over the ocean. Do I have your attention yet? No? Well as you picture what else do you see? I would say you probably see sand and clouds correct? I can get to the point here in a moment but first let’s continue to picture your perfect day at the beach with just you.

As you look around you see the house you want or maybe have and you probably see the life you want correct? A dream or reality but most important what else do you picture could it possibly be a yacht in the distance or possibly a nice cold beer next to you. Still continue to picture this immaculate view creating a warmer day with a better breeze making it an almost perfect day.  Now that you have this mental picture in your mind look down, is the body you want the same as the house or ocean you see in front of you? That answer is up to you and totally in the confines of your own decision to create that image.

Seducing the Mind ( get any women you want) Part 1 of 3

Intriguing as you might think that the stare or being flirtatious may come to you as women being interested in you, also would probably like to know that you need to intrigue the mind. Many people that I have met that I would say are not that attractive but seem to be very interesting when you talk and converse with them. Staying engaged at the simple topics they bring up and how they keep your interests. Being socially accepted by talking and creating a social environment it also is an attraction method when it comes to the opposite sex. Being able to become social puts you on the ladder of more of a Alpha as you will and the over abundance of social essence you can control. When most people tell you that you can have a beautiful woman they really do mean it.

Now with the title and what I just said I probably have your attention and not just the attention of reading but the want of knowing knowledge. The thrust of guiding someone into greatness through impressive wording and knowing the secrets. Well I am here to tell you that there is certain ways of seducing the mind of a woman and creating an utter abundance of attraction through word. It is shown that mean are perceiver of the physical realm while women also are but they also see the emotional tie or even biological tie. Women are of course different then men and so we must understand the full attraction of women where they think differently then we do.

Capability of achieving social and economic status in a way also shows another side of seduction not told to you we are not going to talk about being rich, this is for the every day gentleman who just wants to find someone who they may be physically attracted to and just doesn’t know how to or what way in which to talk to her and get to know them better. Utilizing that amazing words that come out of your mouth is a start and you haven’t even begun to understand the power of confidence, persuasion, and motivation that one person can use to of course attract the opposite sex. We are now in the third paragraph and I still haven’t touched base on what you could do to get her to notice you.

The power of your social class has a big part to do with what women find sexy and you only know this when you see it. High school of course is a great example of the attraction law and thought process on one’s opportunity to get the girl or vice versa. The QB getting the captain of the cheerleader, band geeks having crazy sex with each other ( in my school they were that way!). In this example it shows the social status is always going to be what is expected but when you are out and about with friends lets say the bar, She does not know who you are!!!!!! Let me say that again, she does not know who you are!!!! Don’t be a dummy when that was just brought to your attention. This means that you have a fresh start to show that you are the social elite status to her encumbering eyes.

This is what you need to do and this can work not only for your love life but to build friendships or your career. You use the power to lead conversation, to take control of a group and get them interested in a story or a theory that you have and how you do that is to first feel confident in controlling the group. Then when you know what to say you say it loud enough without shouting and deep enough so everyone knows the tone of the story, draw them in. Make the conversation open ended and be social as if you are running the show. Shake hands and use lots of touch, flirtatious with the girls and buddy manly touch with the guys (high fives etc.). Now when I started using this method I instantly had a girl who was gorgeous walk up to the group and in the middle of the group tell me and of course I have repeated this story numerous times:

“ Hey I don’t normally do this but I was wondering if you could take down my phone number?”

 And this is where I developed a theory because I was the center of attention because of the joke I told. The theory has been tried and tried and will work in most cases based on the completion and energy of the group and the reason why I tell you this was not only for the attraction of social status but because of energy we give off. We as human beings give off energy and if you notice it is positive or negative but others can feel it. You know when someone is happy or sad just by being by them and so part 1 of seducing the mind is just that. You get a big crowd of happy people that you are entertaining others cant help to be attracted to it!

Of course you are wanting more and if you wait next week their will be seducing the body !

Reinvent yourself

As the days become shorter you start to realize that you are letting time pass you by. A middle aged man that has been drinking his 20’s away you wake up and realize you are not where you want to be. I can tell you that everyone puts them in the position of where they want to be and nothing is by chance or luck. Do you think you would win the lottery if you have never played it ( putting yourself in the pool). The answer is no, luck has nothing to do with lottery just putting yourself in the pool of others who would like to win.

The same thing you can say about life, life is a pool of winners and losers, if you are not winning you are losing and nothing can put you where you want to be besides you. Motivation is key in the game of everything, but you have to have a strategy before you enter into the game of life. Goals are great when you tell someone or you tell yourself you will do whatever you want to do but what happens, your goals diminish after a couple of hours because you don’t prepare. Many people in life prepare for what they want to become from a basketball player who has to practice to hit the difficult shots to the stock broker who studies the charts every minute of every day to the doctor who has to go to school for 8 years plus.

If you believe that people are just found for their talent you are surely kidding yourself. Many of the actors like Kevin Spacey and other greats stood behind the amazing stars before they got a chance. You need to make a goal and a chance to be great, a chance to show the world what you are capable of. Set goals which will make your life better as a whole and it doesn’t have to be going to the bar every weekend.

·        Don’t like your job- change jobs or better yet get a degree or another if you have one.

·        Step out on your own- go to the movies by yourself etc. you don’t need your best bud to go with you everywhere.

·        Do something that you have always wanted to do- make goals and get rid of the things that get in the way everyday.

·        Restart your passion- if something doesn’t work, back up then go at it again.

These are something’s to create a more cognitive thought on how to change an aspect of your life. Hence “your life” so go out and do it and do it like you mean it!!

Divine Right!! Guide to getting what you want

Needing to have physical things throughout our day we tend forget on what is really what we are all here for and that is better our lives through creating the “divine right”. What is Divine right you ask? It is something I would to call creating a god like structure through respecting your mind, body and spirit. I don’t believe we can ever be perfect but think about the leaders of our world work. They are motivated by creating something that is there own as like God. They do this so meticulous, creative but they concentrate on everything that is what they create. I believe God is not a man in the sky looking after us but a higher power that motivates our body to be better everyday. A higher power that gives you tools to become better than yourself. When they say to accept Jesus in your heart, I think they got it wrong. I think Jesus was trying to explain to accept his teachings and him so you can live the lifestyle for an overall better positive life. The bible is a guide in which if we adopt the lifestyle it is to help us become a better person overall.

Now I don’t mean if you are not religious this is not for you. This concept is nothing new but it is something I am trying to adopt in my everyday routine. To do things with passion and strive to be self disciplined in my endeavors and to do things meticulously so it is done right. To be successful is to succeed at your failures, don’t give up on the things you do if they are hard. Push through the pain and it will be so much better than giving up early. If you do fail do it with pride knowing you did try your best, you will be a winner.

Divine right is a god like structured life that you try to live by. To know that you are positive and do things to the best of your ability while concentrating, that is divine right!!

Motivation…

So how do you become successful?  The word is a very strong word when you look at it. SUCCESS! Think about for a couple of seconds and think about what it takes to be successful and what you deem success. Money, cars or is it career, personal feats, and relationships. It took me two and a half years to figure out what I wanted, what I needed to be happy. It wasn’t girls, money and assets; it was being happy at my goals and attaining what I wanted in my life. I read through my past posts and I think that I have grown from the first part of my impatient theories and lectures on becoming this ultimate male. The reason why is because I was still waking up every morning unhappy even though I had a great night or going to work where I don’t feel adequate enough or happy to be there. So it is time to create goals and happiness in my life. I choose to be happy, I choose to win. No one else can give me the go ahead; no one else can tell me it’s my time. The only one that can tell me is me and that is all I need to motivate myself. All I need is to have the positive outlook on my goals.  What I need is me and to get up when life hits me and keeps beating me down, I will get back up and I will prevail, I will get up every morning and be as productive as I can be and to show my son that you have to work hard to get what you want. Looking for instant gratification is what we all look for when it comes to a dream, but how do you define Success. My definition is standing after every one else has fled, to lead when all others have already quit, to fight when others are knocked out. I will continue to breath and conquer when others have loss sight of the finish line. To continue to fight even though I was already knocked out, to show I am not weak but strong. It’s my time; it’s my time to show everyone they were wrong that they told lies about what I could have done in this life. I will show that I can succeed, I can do this. I am not saying that I will not fail and not fall, but what I am saying is I will get back up and continue to push to shove to drag to crawl to bleed. I will continue to get up and get up until I die, until my last breath and drop of blood has exploded out of me!!

Getting HOT SEXY women with Personal Value!!

As I walked into the bar with my buds, I looked around to see who is staring back at me. I looked around feeling so confident because I just got a new haircut, whitened my teeth and now down to 10% body fat. I start to walk through the bar and already a girl start to pull on my shirt asking me what my name was. Through the whole night I continue to get the response from many women throughout the night as I start to develop a self esteem that is unparalleled that I had before. Thinking about it, reading documents on how any man can seduce a woman I look at the article and disagree. Even though the techniques would work on some women, I think the women that put hours upon hours in the gym and pay a butt load of money to do their hair want a man that put the same importance in themselves as their partners.

I like the way I feel when I workout and I like the attention that the opposite sex gives me when I am out and about. I will refer back to social value and the confident level that you can create when of course you take care of yourself physically. It also will create a mental atmosphere where you can maneuver and start to be apart of the social scene. Like I said time and time again you don’t have to be in great shape but to tell you the truth if you want a hot, sexy women that you know goes to the gym you may need to hit the weights and lose weight. Just like a car you need to take care of it so it looks nice and new right? Same concept, a women will not want an overweight man that has lost teeth and hair because they don’t take care of themselves, you must understand that physicality is apart of the relationship too. So that said she is going want the value of a man to be at her level or above.

Now there is many questions you have on how to change yourself, and it took me about 2 years to realize this. I have been in the shadows of my friends for awhile and I just thought it was the way life is but didn’t accept that. I started to do research and found that you must adopt a new lifestyle, a new pattern of thinking if you wanted to change your life. I was a passive aggressive and now I am assertive, I was overweight and out of shape and now I run ten miles every other day. It’s a thought process and how to develop the thought of changing your new life, don’t accept it, change now for a better healthier you!!

Do what you love!

So now that I have recently let my stress go and Just started to do the things Ive always wanted to try. Climbing mountains, getting ripped and training for a marathon I noticed that I started to develop a personality that was my own. As I continue to write down the goals that I want to accomplish I understand why we have men who are considered these alpha males. They own their own lives and I see this in there eyes and when I started to go out for the first time I saw the response that others had when in company with these men.

I had to know how and why these people are so dang entertaining/ attractive/mysterious. As I start to do some research there is a lot of the same answers between different people and styles. I can guarantee right now I fill the same way and it fills amazing. I am not rich and  I am not tall But I am fit and I own my own life. That was one thing I was missing, whenever I would talk to someone I would hesitate when I told them I am going through a divorce and have a kid because I thought they would think differently of me.

Own your life because it is who you are!! The difference between you and that alpha male is that they own their lives. They tell you the good and bad of their lives but know that they have learned from their experiences. So to get out and do things and to create your own personality you need to try to do things you’ve always wanted to do!

Make better choices!! for a better life

As I look out at the vast mountain range of the “Keyhole” with the 50 MPH wind hitting my face like a sand blaster, my stomach drops. Looking down, I see a rocky ridge 2000 feet down with a straight drop and to the left was the path up the massive mountain which I was almost there. I stepped back for a moment looked at the people I was with and saw that they were not going to do it. I started back down the boulder field and thought to myself I was almost there what am I scared of?  The drop?  The wind? Yeah I was scared but we are always scared of everything and this separates us from the ones who “can” and the “cants”. I start to tighten up my backpack and tie my shoes “Hey, I am going to do it!” my friends turn around and look at me like I was crazy. I told them it may take me some time but I will be back! I start to ascend back to the entrance of the backside of the mountain, the wind blowing in my face my stomach again starts to drop again as I climb over the giant boulders.

Embrace being Single!

As the anxiety rises through my head wondering what I did to make her run, I sit back and analyze everything. The feeling of emotions of inadequacy roles over me as I descend to pits of depression. Trying to feel happy but cant put the smile on my face. The feeling of being alone is an upmost horrible feeling at first but as I stare at the phone and realize she is not going to send a text back to a witty thing I said. I am single and a master of my own domain, no one to tell me what to do or say. I realize that I may not be ready for a relationship but trying to rush into one because I am afraid of being alone. I have always done that jumping from one to another thinking it was a good idea. Figured out that it was always a bad idea because I haven’t experienced being alone truly and I think that is why it scares me.

            The thought of the unknown is a scary thought and I wasn’t wanting to feel this way. Everything was good until we did the deed and then it changes the emotions between us both, the scary thought of finding someone was also a happy thought that I could not erase I knew I started to rush into quickly. I tend to do that a lot and then see the fleeing of women that I have seen all to much. Ive always been a relationship type of guy but have not embellished the single life. I think it is time to start understanding that I can be happy with myself and be alone.

            First things first, I need to reinvent my values as a person. There is a reason why I have failed relationships and that is because I myself has no core values, I use their values to create my own perception therefore I am reliant own the relationship to define my thoughts and feelings. How I am going to do that is to create the perception that I am in control in what I want and what I do. Self control shows many people who they really are in life and creation of life as they know it. I tend to fall in the category where I will follow everyone else’s vision in what I am supposed to be. I am my own person and that speaks a lot for many people who don’t know who they are and what they are capable of. Creating self control not only will help me develop values but create a confidence that is long lasting in being a person who can get about anything they want in life. I must commit to the new me and say goodbye the irresponsible me, I must push forward in life to a degree of irreversible threat. I need this as if it is my sanction my undeniable right as an individual. I must finally decided to accomplish my goals and create a feeling of self worth so the women that I want will want what I share as a value. Its time to do it!!

Love Yourself

As I stare waitingly into the cold black screen, I have anxiety on the unexplained. The call or even text that I have waited for sometime just will not come. Having the urge to make the attempt to call I back up for a minute and excuse myself. “I shouldn’t be feeling this way, I should be out and about but I am not”. Sitting in my bedroom just pondering and wanting it to give me some sound that I have been yourning for. With all of the people and women that I have met why is this one bothering me? Why cant I just let go and just move on somehow?

            Wondering for several days I walked down the street remembering of the homework assignment I had to complete in English, I started to stress about that as well. The assignment was to write about a travelling experience I had that taught me a lesson and to write as a narrative. I started out as talking about the whole thing of me in Lake Powell and doing all of the crazy things that we did. One thing that stuck in my mind was the “cliff Jump” this was one of my most memorable moments in my life that I could remember. As I start to write about it I realized that was the only time I was single and happy to not have to worry about what another person is doing.

            As I continue to ponder the reasoning and writing the story my dialogue comes to life as if the words was trying to say something to me. I stop and thought real hard on why I feel that I always have to have a female around me. “I don’t know my limits, I don’t even know how to do anything”. The thought processes through my head like a nail gun putting together the foundation of a wall. I need to start fulfilling my life with other things than the attention of the opposite sex. I cant operate without knowing of a women that cares or at least is thinking of me. So how do I start? What am I going to do to rid myself of the all to commonality of most men and why we fail with relationships.

           

            The all to common “jumping from one to the other” and why we associate this to being happy. I am going to work with this one as somewhat of a starter because I myself has fallen victim to a lot of the term usage of my own life and why I do this. I have always been in a relationship and enjoyed them but for one I time in my life I have not truly enjoyed myself in being single. So here is a few things I am going to point at when trying this new thing:

• Make a list “Bucket List”- Try new things or reinvent old things  but make a list in the stuff you have always wanted to try and do it alone. You don’t need friends for this one try to do this one and you should be trying to make new friends.
• Get fit- Now I am always saying this because I enjoy being healthy but try to enjoy wherever you are.
• Help your community- Try to sign up to help fix the local community or even feed the homeless. Be proactive in giving back to your community.
• Reconnect with family/friends- this is a big one that I had an issue with because with my relationships I was close guarded so I cared nothing with the other relationships in my life. Basically just leaving them to the waste side.
• Go on vacation with yourself- I am going to go to New York this summer and I believe I am going to go there by myself to let some steam off.

There is a lot of other things you can do but start to live life as if you are the one driving. Too many people fall victim to the innate nature of a relationship and they find themselves in an emotional rollercoaster. If you yourself do not know what you like how is the other person in your life going to know!!

Summer!! Customize it !!

Wanting more from life and wondering what you can do to achieve it? Wondering the same myself as I was out on another weekend with my buddies trying to understand why I do this every weekend. Contemplating this in the back of my mind I knew why and it was because my friends do it. Drinking until I get totally obliterated and not being able to remember the night is something I don’t think I want to continue doing. Trying to re-piece the night I sounded like I had a great time but why put my body through this, no more I say because it is not worth it. I cant stress the importance of how drinking can inhibit everything about your life as I have had to deal with it for a little bit but finally realized the importance of being a healthy individual. I now have the power to take back my life and make the proper decisions to have an amazing summer!!

We all dream about doing something more with our life and being able to do something different but when it comes to the decision we don’t do it. Self sabotage is what I have been preaching and that is what we all do but lets think about a healthier summer:

• Get Fit- Now this is hard but once you jump in its no holds barred. Having summer here gives me a sense of wanting to get out and do something active and also being in Colorado helps. Get out and do some running, hiking or mountain biking as well. Not only will this of course help your health but better with the opposite sex as well.
• Try something new- So what I have noticed is that people tend to be in habit. What you may want to try is to get fit but try a new way of doing it. I will start bouldering on Tuesday and extremely excited because it is something new and I am not wasting away at a patio drinking empty calories. Try to find something physically to do while it being also fun.
• New style- get rid of the 3 year old shorts and reward yourself with newer and of this decade style.
• Eat healthy and fresh- Summer always reminds me of fresh squeezed lemonade and grilling. Try to get a juicer and some fish, eating healthier also helps so many other things such as your mood. Fish is an amazing food because its protein to fat is outstanding and very lean for you but also the omega vitamins will help that burn you get turn into a tan senor!!
• Relax- Stop stressing, this leads to irrational decisions when it comes to your personal life as well. Feeling stressed can leave you tired and fatigued so when you had plans you wanted to do you may feel weary to do them.

I am thinking that maybe also trying to do some of these with the opposite sex. Try these things for this summer and even plan a trip other than party cities like places you really want to go!!

Positive Awareness!!

As I stand in the outskirts of the bar looking around I notice the cliques and people that are enjoying each other. As I look around I see beautiful women all over the place and the glances that they are giving me. I start to have a giant smile having loads of confidence I tend to relax a tad in my plaid shorts as I feel at ease with all of the surroundings. Even if the girls were not staring at me directly or just glancing for their attention I still felt as if the energy that I felt created a positive awareness!! This was giving me a natural high as I have not felt this in awhile; can we use this for our own advantage to have the confidence? That night I felt as if I was ten feet in the air even though I was only a tiny 5’ 7”.

So this is something I use in generality to create a positive outlook on myself. I believe that women in general use glances to create a self persona on what they think people think of them. I also use this towards my advantage because it creates awareness that I am good enough for the opposite sex. I don’t think, I know that I could be in basic knowledge that the women here I can have but just don’t have the balls to talk to them. I warm up by allowing the energy of sensuality envolope me as if I was reaping natural energy from a known source. It’s all in the head; you create a fear of the outcomes of what you do and the scenarios that can develop from it. One thing I know is the answer is no if you don't ask, taking chances is all you have.

Creating a positive awareness about yourself can almost guarantee a better night for you and possibly your friends. You see even though we don’t know this we give off energy non-verbally but by looks and glances, try to realize it next time someone gives you a look and remember how you feel. The thought patterns that you create is from another source which you can presume has to be energy. What I try to teach is to envelope a thought pattern to use in the process’s in which you can utilize as a tool instead of resorting to the alternate which is alcohol where you cannot have the ability to communicate with the opposite sex.

I am a Realist…

Thinking back at my life I never would have thought I would be here! In a place where I have so many decisions to make and it will not only affect me but everyone around me. I continue to drum the fingers on the table as I think of the words to come to mind and putting it down on paper. The words correlating with one another as if they were smeared on there like peanut butter, words looking more like pictures. I continue to get mental fatigue, running out of words and even breathe saying them over and over.

This is what my motivation has helped me accomplish!! and keep going

Allowing yourself to make decisions finally!!

What is capitalism in America? Being a realist I always have to wonder about what America is doing right that the rest of the world is doing wrong. I take a look at the McDonald commercials on T.V. broadcasting to my Child knowing that it would destroy him one day. The toy is intriguing to him as he taps me in the arm asking me to get him this great toy that cost them a penny to make but I will be paying 3.99 for it. Soon his diet will be the dollar cheeseburger in which costs twice as much as me making a meal for him at home. I shake my head at the one’s that allow this to be the staple of America, allowing TV to babysit the kids and fast food to be the nightly dinners. I take a look at our educational system as it teaches our children to try for a better “Job” instead of creating jobs. We look at our fascist country as the rich get richer and of course the poor get poorer.

Common Sense is a term used for people to use in the obvious; it is something we have all had to deal with having epiphanies of what is! The use of many terms in which facts is staring you in the face but you tend to erase what you know and replace with the norm. It may not be your fault but what society is telling you what the norm is. What you have to understand there is no norm but the differences between people is what connects us to one another. It is what intrigues us all to the brink of discovery but you my friend have to understand its corruptible capabilities.

Opening your eyes to what you already have seen but have not fixed the habit is something we all have to change. A behavioral characteristic is something we all develop through our time on this world, our mind is a sponge and adaptability is what keeps us alive. Learning from parents and kids at school is all you have come upon in what you know is your personality and you think you were born with it. The understanding of oneself is to know what you are capable of and changing yourself into what you want to be and what you want your children to model after. I have experienced many failures in my life and have openly admitted defeats but it was I to blame for all the wretched indiscretions that I have opposed on to others.

I look out into the world and I still find myself repeating the mistakes that I have failed to fix before but as I notice my behavioral characteristics I have found myself beating myself up again. I started the life change 2 years prior to this date and what I’ve learned is no one should accept who they are if they are not happy with themselves. We must thrive on what is reality and what I believe is that we as people must overcome our own obstacles in life and make better decisions. Logics over emotions can be a gateway to a better life and understanding this concept was something I had to learn the hard way. I was married before this and being married to women that continually used manipulation against me was something I hadn’t experienced and being Naive I went with it till one day I woke up and was not happy.

My journey has always started their and realized I had a lot of growing up to do not only for my son but for myself and allowing this to continue I needed to show him I was strong for him. I continually allow my self to grow mentally and physically to understanding the universe in my own sense and to allow others to direct me to answers I have not found. Remember when you are done learning is when you begin teaching. Allow yourself to experience all of what life has to offer! Using common sense to rule out bad decisions and the pressures of society can bring you good as long as you make the decision for a better you!

Product of your environment “subjective”

Sitting there with a six dollar Latte, thinking to myself while I was people watching “Why do people do what they do”? It makes no sense to me that your soul, your whole embodiment of what makes you who you are may be a little skewed. Looking around people has a habit they pick up when they are really little as toddlers and gradually it becomes a thought they start to grow from it. I was thinking about it, what could have caused the way I think? What triggered my thought process in which I try to utilize biological advances to use towards my struggles in being a man my son can look up to?

The art of openness “objective”

As I ordered a drink at my favorite “hole in the wall” I look at my friends all having a good time except for one. Josh is a good guy and he seems like he has good intent but he looks sad enough to be on a Hallmark card. A great guy indeed just got a raise at his accounting job and he has a great place where any bachelor would love to have. I was wondering why none of the women he was talking to would not give him the time of day. Pulling Josh over to my side of the room I tell him that I would like to be his “Wingman”. Overly excited he was happy that someone was going to help him out with the girls that were giving no responses.

Lose weight easier!!

It is three o’clock and I am wide awake. The only thing on was infomercials about how to lose weight and build muscle. The person talking, a tanned hyped version of Arnold yelling at me on ways to improve and lose the extra weight. Being a skeptic that I am I quickly turn to another channel but still another weight loss program ready to yell at me. Continually over and over again as I switch one thousand channels I get on a station playing a movie as I start to finally dose off. Dreaming of the infomercials because of the memory lag in my mind I start thinking on how people overspend on these expensive products that people soon pawn off to friends because they have no motivation for it.

Now I am not saying that this stuff works because it does as long as you have self discipline for it. Diet fads and other retrospective “Weight loss” products have some potential and even supportive reasoning behind it but what I am purposing is self motivation. When I was in High School I had a best friend who was overly obese but one of those funny ones, you know what I am talking about. He was a guy who was always downing himself because he also was short and not a lot of self esteem. At the beginning of my senior year he came back from the summer and I did not even recognize him. He lost over 50 pounds that summer and I didn’t understand how or why.

From this day I am still amazed on how his transformation gave me some inspiration to do things in my life. With all of the aspects in my life I have always lived through everyone else’s success and I love them for it. Determination is you telling yourself to get back up after falling a million and one time, and you keep doing that even though you are failing miserably. Expensive gyms, CD’s, personal trainer’s and Diet supplements are all there for your use but you have to remember nothing is ever easy as I learned throughout my years of failing, I just pick my self up again. These products work and they will always work, you just need some self discipline. You need to stop that self sabotage that I have experienced a thousand times and go for your goals.

There are many ways to lose the extra weight but you had to think logically and self discipline:

• Have a plan-you can’t just wing it when you are trying to discipline. Try to make your lunches and leave your money at home. You will have to plan what you will eat at what breaks.
• Create goals- per week write down your goals and what you want to accomplish. By the end of the week you should be one more step to being thinner.
• Use the products for the benefit- If you do try the DVD’s or even the diet pills “fat burners” you have to have the goal of accomplishing it with a diet because if you don’t you wont lose you actually may come out gaining weight.

In essence learn from the experts, if you are going to buy these products don’t just do it half a*& you need to create goals and stick to them!!

Social Objectiveness

Walking into the bar I was wondering around when I saw a gentleman with a group of people and was wondering why he was so important. He was not a movie star nor was he anyone I would think exceptionally interesting just looking at him. I had to know more about this so of course if I don’t know how it works I try to find out. So when he had to stop to go to the bar to get another drink I had to make a move to ask why he had almost a quarter of the bar in the palm of his hands.

I approached the middle aged man as If he was a teacher and I was an eager student to learn. “ Hey can I ask you a question” I said in a shaky voice. Smiling at me a with a weird grin he stated “sure”.  “I noticed that all of those people over there were giving all of their attention to you, do you know all of those people?” He grinned a pretty big grin and smiled stating “I am just interesting to talk to, I make myself open for opinions and I try to get to know everyone I can by remembering the name and something about them”. Okay as I walked away thinking maybe I can use this to my advantage.

Very simple when you think about it right? Basic thought process and simple playground theory on how to make friends but how do we use this to get the women to melt out of your hands? This was something I had to look into with knowing that attention is something that women like to have and give it to someone who has greater social value than her. See as much as I knew than was that you yourself is a very interesting person, everyone is very interesting and all you have to do is get past the first initial ice breaker. Lets look at this in depth just a little bit further and concentrate on the social value part.

Social Value is what Pick up artists use to attract women utilizing the value of their social skills to dominate the conversation having the object of their desire be submissive which will entitle the Pick up artists basically dominate her emotions as well. This is great and all but what if you can get multiple women attracted to you without even talking to them directly? How can we as men use each other to get all the women at the bar to be infused on trying to get our attention? I had an Idea but just had to test it out.

So after doing the research I decided to take it to the streets and try it at the local bar.  Sitting down at the bar where you had a clear view of everyone in the room I started in on the bartender. And I will review my notes with you to show you its all mathematical engineered to work as long as you do not get emotional.  Remember these points also when you do start to talk to the women you want as well.

• So placement is key in this game of cat and mouse, and we already went how you need to show Alpha male characterstics. Remember this process will evaluate your social value and aspects on making new friends and creating an attraction from women.

• So lets hit the basics on making people feel important.

1. know their name- simple but not so simple, how many times did you forget someone’s name. When they say their name, take some time to remember it and repeat it back to them, it actually shows a better social value.
2. Know something personal about them- this is a great thing to remember when wanting to make a bigger impression on the people you want to make your friends. It shows openness and wanting to be personal at the same time.
3. use body language- Don’t show a passive person this shows that you are not confident and it will not be good in the end and even lowering or even dismissing your social value.
4. Smile and ask open ended questions and really be involved in conversations, don’t act like it!!

• The bartender is the first piece of the puzzle. They are your friend but making them a better friend will take time and a little more dough if you want a good outcome. Tip very well and get to know their name and they will help you with what you came there for IE women.
• Make yourself the center of attention- now you know all of the players you need to know the game, be the center of attention of a group and make everyone involved, use dominant body language but also be open to everyone else. Be in the middle so everyone can talk to you and you can point them out when addressing them. If you have never been a mediator what you need to do is have a comment on everything someone says, use a real comment and always make it positive. Now you have successfully raised social value and your confidence.
• Use this to your advantage- look at the women around you after about 10 – 15 minutes, they should be fixated on you and your every move, don’t screw it up. Use this to your advantage, invite them into the conversation and if you don’t know if they are attracted look at the body language:

1. playfulness- playing with the hair or any part of clothing,
2. the look- yes of course if she stares then don’t be a wimp
3. knees and feet- look at them if any pointing in your direction and she glances to see then like I said don’t be a wimp
4. overly moving, exemplifying action- this is very key, moving slower, slurping down the drink slowly, flinging hair back, being fidgety, these are things to remember.

• Remembering your value- don’t put her on a pedestal when opening up with her, remember you just had a bunch of people eating out of your hands and to put her above you decreases your value fast. Use somewhat of a negative comment and intend to be funny like “ you have broad shoulders for a women” or “you have only one dimple when you smile, its odd but cute”

When doing this task it will increase your confidence not only with women but people in general. Having this type of quality you can use not only in just attracting women but your worth at your job or with your current friends. Remembering that this is and can be used very versatile will help you control your intentions and emotions as well.